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Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things -1Cor. 13:7
After being married for over ten years, I’ve learned so much from my wife about myself, my habits, and the things I do that get on her nerves. The cool thing is she still loves me despite my hang-ups. God is the same way with His children; He loves us despite our hang-ups because of the Blood of Jesus.
When you’re single, no one can really tell you about yourself because no one lives with you twenty-four hours a day. When you’re single, it’s easy to think that you have it all together because there is no one to tell you to pick your socks up off the floor or take out the trash. There’s only you, and you can leave the socks wherever you like and take out the trash whenever you’re ready. However, those who are married always have to make decisions with the other spouse in mind. Let’s look at three ways that marriage helps us become Christ-like:
And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not -Gal. 6:9
God uses our spouse to help make us patient. What is it that your spouse does that gets on your nerves? Are you waiting for them to change that bad habit of theirs? Love them regardless, because trying to change your spouse will only make things more stressful.
There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends -John 15:13
God uses our spouse and children to help us understand how to sacrifice. Have you ever wanted to get something for yourself yet your spouse or child had a more pressing need? Is there something that your spouse likes for you to do, but you don’t care much about? Choose to do the things that matter to them, because doing so puts smiles on their faces.
Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends -Prov. 17:9
God teaches us how to forgive through our spouse. Has your spouse done something that hurt you? Maybe they struggle with taming their tongue, flesh or are somewhat inconsiderate. Many people choose to bail out and divorce during this time. But if we take our wedding vows seriously, we should stay with our spouse until death do us part. We are forgiven through Jesus so how much more should we forgive?
Have you become more Christ-like since marriage?