The Benefits of Short Term Memory

The Benefits of Short Term Memory

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There are benefits to short term memory. Usually when we bring up this statement, it’s usually in a bad sense like Dementia. And no, I haven’t read some crazy blog with a new scientific study on the benefits of short term memory! In this blog the benefits of short term memory comes in the form of forgiveness.

Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you – Eph. 4:31-32

Why does the Bible speak so much about forgiving others? Because we live in a fallen world marred by sin. You have issues just like I have issues so who am I not to forgive you when you’ve done me wrong?

I’m not saying it’s ok for a spouse to cheat and then expect him or her to automatically forgive the person in the wrong. It’s a process and takes time. Time doesn’t heal all wounds, but it’s what you do with that time that heals all wounds. Are you going to keep regurgitating what happened in the past or are you going to get the necessary help to recover from the offense?

If you don’t know me by now, I’m a huge fan of NFL Football and so many of life situations run juxtapose to football. One thing that’s taught to a cornerback on defense is to have a short memory, if a receiver beats him for a touchdown.  The reason he must have a short memory is the cornerback will face that receiver again throughout the course of the game. So, for sixty minutes (the duration of a football game) the cornerback and wide receiver are somewhat ‘joined at the hip.’

Isn’t that like marriage? We are ‘joined at the hip’ until death do us part. I’m not saying a husband and wife play for different teams but, when you do me wrong I have to have a short term memory or I keep thinking about the last play. One key to a healthy relationship is having a short term memory because I will say or do something that will offend you or vice versa. No matter how great the cornerback, even Deion Sanders (maybe the greatest cornerback to ever play the game) will tell you, you will get beat for touchdowns in your career. Just like being offended in a relationship, it comes with the territory.

Sometimes in relationships we are too easily offended. Stop being so sensitive.

A cornerback will tell you, if a receiver beat you off the line of scrimmage, the worst thing you can do is try to look back at the quarterback to see if he’s going to throw the ball to that receiver you are covering. Why is that? Because you run faster when you are looking ahead opposed to looking behind you. The same thing applies to marriage. If you are continually looking behind you, it will slow down your progress and you will get beat for a touchdown every time. Stop looking at what your spouse did in the past because if you keep looking ahead, you will run faster towards the future!

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Shon Hyneman

Single Father, Mentor, Blogger. The author of 5 books and founder of Never Again Ministries, a place where we can walk through life together. Shon also hosts of The Doctor of Love Show Podcast where he discusses real topics on relationships in a spiritual and practical way so you can apply it to your everyday life. You can subscribe to The Doctor of Love Show Podcast on Stitcher, iTunes, iHeartRadio and Google Play