Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone? -Prov. 5:16-17
I know we always tell the women not to have sex until marriage, but we need to do a better job of telling men why they shouldn’t have sex until marriage also. But this blog isn’t for single men only, it’s for all men married or not. If married, don’t give yourself a reason to cheat on your wife no matter the circumstances. If God made us the head, I believe we need to carry ourselves to a higher standard. But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God -1Cor. 11:3
Being a man myself, I understand the struggle of a man with being attracted to the opposite sex. Don’t get me wrong, I believe women are the most beautiful of all God’s creation. At the same time we as men have to put to death the sinful, earthly things lurking within you -Col. 3:5 so we can live a life pleasing to God. It’s a daily battle but we are called to live a life of integrity, if the man goes down so does the family. Here are some reasons why a man shouldn’t sleep around:
God knows the destruction of the spirit of a man if he’s sleeping around: I urge you as aliens and strangers to abstain from fleshly lusts which wage war against the soul -1Pet. 2:11 When a man get hooked on sex, he will go any length to get it from cheating on his wife, rape, porn and promiscuity. Leaving a trail of hurt people behind his destruction. Many women who are married today still struggle with the hurt of a past boyfriend or husband who didn’t know how to treat her, and in turn her current husband or boyfriend deal with those hurts from the past.
Respecting her is not sleeping with her: Even if she want to have sex with you, be man enough to obey God and resist her advances. Don’t let the excuse, “I couldn’t help myself” be a crutch for having sex. Don’t put yourselves in situations for you to set yourself up for failure. Women are the weaker vessel (1Pet. 3:7) so sometimes just being a responsible man can turn a woman on. Unfortunately some men use this as an advantage to use women, but God will deal with those who play on women emotions for sex. Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body -1Cor. 6:18 Contrary to popular belief, a man wants a woman who will make him wait to have sex after marriage.
Having children with different women: As a man, do you want your kids to have different mothers and growing up in different households? Know how hurtful it is for your child to have different brothers and sisters they don’t know about? Also, the poverty level is higher among single parents with multiple children. We have to learn to be better stewards of our body. Have you grew up in a single parent home? Would you want your children to feel the same pain you did with the absence of a parent? I was born out of adultery and I know the hurt and pain of missing my father because he was married to someone else during my birth. I made up in my mind when I married to never let my children feel that pain. Here I am ten years later married to the same woman because I made a commitment to God to live a Godly legacy for my children.
When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things -1Cor. 13:11