Can You Stand The Rain?

Can You Stand The Rain?

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Have you scrolled through Facebook timeline and seen all the people married or in a relationship take a selfie (I don’t know if you call it a we-fie when you take the picture with your spouse or significant other)?  All you could think about how everyone is with “bae” and seem so happy.

The problem with this is you want the same thing. You want to take pictures with your new significant other and change your relationship status from single to in a relationship on Facebook.

While single, we all desire to be with someone right? We’re human and want to be desired by the opposite sex. When we see people on social media hugged up with their spouse, we think they have the perfect marriage and if we can get married, marriage will solve our problems.

Breaking news! Marriage won’t solve your problems. When you see a couple take a selfie together, you have no idea what happened previously or how long it took for that couple to get to a place of happiness together.

I guess perception is reality. What we see online is what we believe. Don’t get me wrong, marriage is beautiful and definitely has it’s benefits. But I believe most singles think once married, you will ride away in the sunset with your spouse happily ever after.

If you been married to the same person over a number of years, they will tell you that everything isn’t peaches and cream all the time. True love will cost you something. Are you willing to pay the price?

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life -John‬ ‭3‬:‭16‬ KJV

God loves us so much that he gave us his only son. Would you sacrifice your son for some people who will spit in your face and reject you later? The world calls it foolishness but God calls it unconditional love.

When you have unconditional love for your spouse you endure the hardships of life, that include infidelity, financial hardships, excepting their flaws and idiosyncrasies. Many of us grew up in broken homes, and some of us were birthed of adultery (like me for example). We never seen a healthy enduring marriage, let alone one that survived the issues listed above.

Some of us have seen (or are products) of a healthy marriage, yet they wasn’t able to see behind the scenes. What I mean by “behind the scenes” are what it took to keep the married couple together or how they fought through adversity.

The only thing we see are the effects of a hurting marriage and unfortunately those who are in proximity of the marriage are hit with the shrapnel. I believe we have to be transparent to those who might admire our marriage from afar. When we do that, we become more human and it takes the glory off us and points the glory to God.

We all love our relationship when it’s sunny outside and things are going great. Anyone can handle that, but what happens when the clouds are grey and there’s a thunderstorm going on in your relationship?

Ever heard the sports term “fair weather fan?” The term comes from a “fan” who supports a sports team when they are winning (I wonder how many Seattle Seahawks fans there will be three years from now).  Once the team run into losing seasons, those fans couldn’t stand the rain and jumped on the next winning team bandwagon.

Sounds like today’s relationship or your average church attendees.

Are you a “fair weather fan” in your relationship?

People look at me sideways when I tell them I’m still a Cleveland Browns fan. Although I now live in Arizona, I still wear my Browns apparel. Have you seen their new uniforms yet? Anyway, I tell them I’m still a Browns fan no matter what! I been a fan since ’88.

If I been committed to the Browns since 1988, how much more should I be committed to my wife?

In the words of R & B group New Edition from the song Can You Stand The Rain:

Sunny days, everybody loves them, but can you stand the rain?

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Shon Hyneman

Single Father, Mentor, Blogger. The author of 5 books and founder of Never Again Ministries, a place where we can walk through life together. Shon also hosts of The Doctor of Love Show Podcast where he discusses real topics on relationships in a spiritual and practical way so you can apply it to your everyday life. You can subscribe to The Doctor of Love Show Podcast on Stitcher, iTunes, iHeartRadio and Google Play