Familiarity Breeds Contempt

Familiarity Breeds Contempt

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When Jesus finished telling these stories, he left there, returned to his hometown, and gave a lecture in the meetinghouse. He made a real hit, impressing everyone. “We had no idea he was this good!” they said. “How did he get so wise, get such ability?” But in the next breath they were cutting him down: “We’ve known him since he was a kid; he’s the carpenter’s son. We know his mother, Mary. We know his brothers James and Joseph, Simon and Judas. All his sisters live here. Who does he think he is?” They got their noses all out of joint. But Jesus said, “A prophet is taken for granted in his hometown and his family.” He didn’t do many miracles there because of their hostile indifference.

-Matt 13:53-58 (Message Bible)


What an interesting piece of scripture! Were the people in Jesus’ hometown familiar with Him? They started to like what Jesus was talking about, but because they had known Him since He was a Child, they took him for granted.  They knew Him as “Joseph and Mary’s son,” not the Savior of the world.  Do people take you for granted? Are you always there for everyone but when you need them they are nowhere to be found?  Now I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be of assistance when people need you or go hide under a rock.  However, sometimes we can be too aggressive when trying to help others.

For example: Have you been in a dating relationship with someone you really like and found yourself always wanting to be around them?  You might have been having a good time only to find out later that they felt smothered.  Back off and give them space!  Single women, if a man really likes you then you should play hard to get; don’t be so easy and accessible.  I don’t mean play games with his emotions, but make him work for your time and presence!  It will definitely be worth it.  Your past relationships may not have worked simply because you were easily accessible and gave away too much too soon.

Have you ever wondered why when your family comes to visit, everything is wonderful for the first 5 days (but things start to go downhill after that)?  One word: familiarity. Familiarity also is one of the reasons why people cheat on their spouses.  Wives, he cheated with a woman you know you look better than because he lacks self-control and also because of familiarity.  Never let your marriage get stale!  Always keep in mind that marriage takes work, and if you don’t feed your marriage, it will starve.

One definition of familiar is “more intimate than is acceptable; presumptuous.”  A synonym for familiar is common. I’m not saying to stop forming friendships and getting to know new people, but people in today’s society get bored very quickly with all the technology and short attention spans. What do you think?


Shon Hyneman

Single Father, Mentor, Blogger. The author of 5 books and founder of Never Again Ministries, a place where we can walk through life together. Shon also hosts of The Doctor of Love Show Podcast where he discusses real topics on relationships in a spiritual and practical way so you can apply it to your everyday life. You can subscribe to The Doctor of Love Show Podcast on Stitcher, iTunes, iHeartRadio and Google Play