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Here are some tips for a husband on how to keep his wife happy. Before you finish reading this blog, let me say that doing the steps in this blog won’t fix everything, but she will smile more often. I can cook dinner for my family once or twice a week to relieve my wife of some duties. I can go a step further and clean the house, take out the trash, or wash the dishes. (These things really help your wife if her love language is acts of service). I won’t do these things just to get sex from her but it will definitely give her some energy when we get to the bedroom. How do I know to do these things for my wife? Because of her habits and predictability of a set schedule. When we think ahead of time about human habits, we can become a help to others like never before.
In the book The Walk Out Woman: When Your Heart is Empty and Your Dreams Are Lost by Dr. Steve Stephens and Alice Gray he says: “We found out that most exhausted women are depleted because of their own decisions to do too much and to shortchange their own needs. The first step in reducing the worn out cycle, therefore, is facing your own responsibility to take care of yourself and see that your basic needs are met.”
I think a lot of times women put a lot of responsibility on themselves when it comes to work and their family. Men are more casual when it comes to helping out with the children’s homework and cooking. Times has changed because it takes two incomes to survive (depending how much one makes and the lifestyle the family live) so the husband has to step up with chores around the house. Just like she works and we as men expect her to cook and take care of the children, we have to be more domestic around the home ourselves.
What about arguments? We can avoid arguments when we use wisdom. For example: If you know your wife nags about you taking out the trash, why don’t you do it ahead of time? See how this can prevent arguments? When we fall victim to the spirit of “I don’t feel like it” we must be willing to deal with the consequences. Some people wouldn’t care and would rather deal with the consequences. They don’t want to feel as if their spouse has control over them by doing something ahead of time simply because it is a desire of their spouse. It’s not about control, but it can be a form of pride because you don’t want someone to have that kind of power over you. If your husband is a man of structure and order, why not fall in line with what he is asking?
Whatever that “It” is do it ahead of time and fight past the emotions just to save some peace in your home. Why is it that when we want a favor from our spouse or we want to “butter them up” we think about everything they like and we do it for them ahead of time? We are setting the atmosphere hoping that it will be the catalyst to get what we are asking from our spouse. For example, a wife wants to go on a family vacation but her husband is putting a lot of hours in at work. She knows what he’s going to say but what is it she does? She fixes his favorite dinner and she wears something very enticing to his eyes. Why does she go through all that? Hoping he will say yes to go on the vacation by giving him what he likes. What if we do these things for our spouse with no strings attached and simply because we love them unconditionally?
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