Men and Porn: Just One Click Away

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If you think you are standing strong, be careful not to fall -1 Cor. 10:12

According to Christianity Today over 50% of Christian men viewed Porn recently

I remember when I got married back on January 1. 2002 it was a wonderful time of celebration and looking forward to spending the rest of my life with the woman I love. In my mind I thought no longer had to struggle with lust because I can have sex whenever I want to right? Although there is some truth to the previous sentence I still had a lust issue that I couldn’t shake even after I got out the bed with my wife.

 

Yes, I struggled with pornography early in my marriage. I fell for the proverbial “Now that I’m married, my wife will douse this lust issue of mines.” Don’t get me wrong, married sex will benefit a husband greatly and will help “tame the beast” but if you don’t learn how to tame the beast while single, no matter how freaky your wife is, porn will come and visit you via internet, cell phone or television.

My heart goes out to this generation of internet and social media. Although there are benefits of the internet, there is a dark side to it as well. Porn is just one click away from your mouse-pad and hundreds of images begin to flood the viewer’s brain. Every generation that passed, porn made its progressions from the 1960’s where a man had to travel far away just to find a naked picture of a woman then you had the explosion of Playboy and Hustler magazine where men would have them stashed under the mattress or some other secret place where the children (or wife) couldn’t find such a thing.

One thing that helped me in my healing process is when I had to make the confession to my wife about my struggle. I knew it would hurt and make her feel insecure, but I was tired of living a secret. A scripture that kept coming back to my remembrance is confessing your sins one to another that you may be healed -James 5:16 so when I told her, she was devastated and after time she said something that I believed helped me heal faster from my addiction. Her response was “so what are WE going to about it?” Now don’t misinterpret what I just said because it wasn’t her struggle but mines. Why would she say “what are WE going to do about it?” She told me that we are one flesh and the only way I could get the necessary healing is if she don’t condemn me but pray for me.

As men we have to be transparent, some young man is looking up to you be it your son or a brother you co labor with at your church. One reason they don’t tell us about their personal struggle is we paint a picture like we have it all together. So he struggle in silence because he feel as if he’s alone in this battle against Pornography. We have to stop passing judgement on the man who has a porn addiction. Truth be told the same one who’s passing judgement is the same one who struggle with it as well.

It’s been a long tough road to recover for me. I started watching porn around eleven years old. Once you start, it’s tough to stop. I didn’t become a Christian until the age of twenty-two and still struggled with it POST salvation. If sin didn’t feel good, who would do it? Porn is stronger than drugs and it’s not designed to let you off. It harm your fellowship with God and leave you feeling nasty and convicted afterwords. (conviction is a good thing, it probably shows that you are born again and the Holy Spirit is making one feel uncomfortable) ┬áNot only does it desensitize the way men view women but your wife can’t meet those freaky expectations that goes on in a man’s mind once he’s been inundated with different images of sex scenes. It also steals precious time away from your life. Once finished watching one scene then you have to see another and slowly but surely five to six hours has gotten away from you. Please don’t have a Pharisee mentality towards the man who struggles with porn. You can be on your computer one day then an enticing image comes across the screen and what will you do? Remember we are all just one…click…away…

Here are scriptures that will help if you confess them everyday and start to walk them out in your everyday life.

1 Peter 2:11

1 Peter 4:1

1 Thess. 4:4

 

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Shon Hyneman

Single Father, Mentor, Blogger. The author of 5 books and founder of Never Again Ministries, a place where we can walk through life together. Shon also hosts of The Doctor of Love Show Podcast where he discusses real topics on relationships in a spiritual and practical way so you can apply it to your everyday life. You can subscribe to The Doctor of Love Show Podcast on Stitcher, iTunes, iHeartRadio and Google Play