Premarital Sex and The Problems It Bring

Premarital Sex and The Problems It Bring

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Silence… That was the only activity going on as I stared at the woman who I love so much on the computer screen. We were having a heated discussion on past relationships on a cold December night over Skype. Then the conversation transitioned into how many sexual partners we both have had. My heart stopped inside of my chest and I felt myself become nauseated. Not because my sexual partners number was so high, but the fact that I’m looking at the woman who God told me to date and she is asking who have I given my body to. The agony! Out of all the time I have spent in prayer asking for a young lady to date, at this very moment she has the choice of leaving. Yes it true in 2 Corinthians 5:17 that you are a new creature, but how do you respond when the seeds you have sown have reached harvest time? By the grace of God she was willing to continue the courtship with me, but I will never forget the gut wrenching feeling of admitting that I gave my body away like a whore.


Sex is AWESOME! God created it but only for the confinements of marriage. But unfortunately people do not realize the consequences of participating in fornication (and yes that includes oral sex). Fornication and the problems it brings extend to all areas of your life, and that is what I would like to address.


1.) Spiritually. As we all should know, when you fornicate you are committing a sin against a Holy God who created sex only for married couples. In fact the bible states that not only is it a sin against God, but a sin against your own body. Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, (1 Corinthians 6:18, 19 NLT). Now we all have felt that feeling of guilt when you wake up or finish having intercourse with someone, who was not your spouse. But unfortunately a lot of us ignored that feeling and continued participate in sin. With the continual denial of the Holy Spirit calling to our spirit to stop, in the spirit realm we are putting cement around our heart and sooner or later will be cold to Gods voice. That my friend is not only a dangerous place, but a place where God will give you over to your desires and denial of him just like he did in Romans 1. So God abandoned them to do whatever shameful things their hearts desired. As a result, they did vile and degrading things with each other’s bodies. (Romans 1:24 NLT)


I didn’t realize how far I was moving myself away from God by continuing in this act. The more I did it, the more I recognized I was apologizing with no emotion or proper intent. To me I looked at it as being “romantic”, but in Gods eyes I was showing Him that I didn’t need him and sin was better than any blessing he could give me. Satan had me in the grip of his hand. I was unaware that by continuing and practicing in fornication I tricked myself into thinking I was “ok” in Gods eyes. That I could repent the next morning and be fine .The fact of the matter is that I wasn’t and you aren’t either. How do I know? Because of the Word of God. God has no use for the prayers of the people who won’t listen to him. (Proverbs 28:9 MSG). That’s a tough scripture huh? How about this one? Those who make a practice of sin are straight from the devil, the pioneer in the practice of sin. The Son of God entered the scene to abolish the Devil’s ways. (1 John 3:8 MSG). I jumped back into repentance when I recognized I was using God’s grace as a crutch and I was being a child of the devil.


2.) Mentally When participating in sexual sin outside of marriage you are not operating in love completely, instead you are indulging in loves fake twin, lust. Lust is a demon that will have your mind blinded that the sin you are actually dealing with is actually killing you. Lust is the demon that convinces a pastor to cheat on his wife with the choir member. Lust is the demon that makes a young man chase a woman for sex and brags about how he has the most “bodies”. The bible warns us of lust in the book of 1 John and how God doesn’t approve of it. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. (1 John 2:16 KJV)


In order to break away from lust you must fight the battle in your mind by renewing your mind. These scriptures will always help in your fight to beat lust. Ephesians 4:23, 2 Corinthians 10:5, and Romans 12:1-2. The battle of lust for me started in 6th grade (August 2000) and was one I wrestled until December 2011. Now that I can look back at that long battle of being entangled in it, I can properly access what went wrong. I started pornography and masturbation in the 6th grade. Making out and petting by the 8th and fornication by the 10th. Can you see the constant progression? I realized out of the 11 years when I finally stop resisting God and gave e myself to him, he had to go and dig to the root of an 11 year strong demon. Every act that we commit to God and against Him is a seed. When that seed is allowed to grow, it causes major hindrance to your spiritual growth. Because I planted those seeds in my mind, the momentum of lust was stronger than my will power. Will power cannot beat sin, only the power of the Holy Spirit.


3.) Physically Must I even begin to talk about the babies out of wedlock, STD/AIDS rate, the percentage of those who are participating in premarital sex in universities across America? Statistics showed that in 2002 that 95% of Americans have participated in premarital sex (see for more info). America has moved so far away from Gods standard and the consequences are being vividly shown around us. Whether you used a condom or not, God still sees your act and it will not protect you from the seed you sowed. There is no such thing as a spiritual condom. Recognize that your body is a temple and you must honor God with your body as a living sacrifice, WORTHY of being used by him (Romans 12:2)


I’m an athlete and by the grace of God I never impregnated a female or received a STD even though I put myself in those predicaments tons of times. Instead sex before marriage attacked my stamina and countenance. So not only were my legs weak in practice and before games, my physical appearance lacked joy and peace. Even though I was back sliding I would still find my way I church and I’m sure those that were close to God could see that I just rolled out of filth the night before. But I was blind but lust and ignorance, and it was decaying my spirit man daily. By the GRACE of God He saved me!! I had no partaken in my deliverance except for wanting to be made whole. But this may not be your story; you may still be caught up in fornication. My friends please recognize that God isn’t trying to punish you and not allow you to have sex. He wants you to, but only in marriage. If you even have the desire to be free from this, recognize Jesus has taken care of this for you. If you confess your sins they will be forgiven (1 John 1:9) and by God’s grace He will change you. You CANNOT do this alone, so do not depend on legalism, but solely on God’s grace to change you (Galatians 3:3). Until next time….

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