The Pros and Cons of Long Distance Relationships

The Pros and Cons of Long Distance Relationships

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Back in 1998 I dated a woman who attended Ohio State University which was one hundred miles away from where I lived. Although we dated over a year (previously before she went away) the long distance relationship did work. While she attended school I worked full-time and we would talk around four times a week over the phone.

Over time she would move closer to home to attend Cleveland State University. The weird thing was the relationship would deteriorate when she came back. Eventually we went our separate ways (I would have to explain in another blog why it didn’t work out). I know what it’s like to be away from the one you love. Since we didn’t have tools like Skype and FaceTime, when we had the opportunity to visit each other in person we would be on the first thing smoking in order to see each other.

According to Statistic Brain

-Average amount of time for long distance relationship to break up if it’s not going to work 4.5 months
-Total percentage of long distance relationships that fail when changes aren’t planned for 70%
-Total amount of couple who claim they’re in a long distance relationship:14 million
-Total percentage of college relationships that are long distance: 32.5%
-Total percent of long distance relationships that break-up: 40%
-Total percentage of engaged couples that have been in a long distance relationship: 75%
-Average distance couple in LDR lived from each other: 125 miles
-Average times couple visited each other per month: 1.5
-Average amount of time in between phone calls: 2.7 days

Here are some pros and cons to long distance relationships:

Pros:
-Since the two of you are away from each other, you are away for a REASON. Maybe you been accepted to a university away from home and what you NEED that particular university offer.

-You been accepted to the military because you have the heart to serve your country. Maybe military blood runs in your family and it’s something you feel is necessary in your life.

-The enhancement of Social Media: as I mentioned above tools like Skype and FaceTime has made us closer than ever through an iPhone or laptop computer. Back in 1998, all we could do was talk, there was no way for us to see each other (unless we took pictures and sent them in the mail which would take a couple of days to receive. I know I sound antiquated but I’m not, I promise)

Fulfilling these dreams in your life is vital. Once the long distance is over and your goal is accomplished, it only makes the overall relationship better because it was something that YOU needed to fulfill. No better feeling than saying “I did it!”

Cons:
-One inhibitor of a healthy relationship is looking back at your past and say “I wish I would have…” Sometimes the one you dated might have been in the way and you couldn’t see clear because you were “in love” and all your focus was on the relationship instead of your assignment while away.

-Lack of Physical Touch (Non sexual) Most women need 10 to 15 touches a day to confirm they feel loved. Men need…never mind. Anyway, we rarely realize how important touch is from the one you love until they are away.

-Immediate Needs/Lack of Self Control: Unfortunately, in some cases people can’t control themselves when temptation comes knocking at their door. Because we live in an instant society, people want now opposed to waiting and that’s when cheating occur. After reading this blog, what are your comments?

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Shon Hyneman

Single Father, Mentor, Blogger. The author of 5 books and founder of Never Again Ministries, a place where we can walk through life together. Shon also hosts of The Doctor of Love Show Podcast where he discusses real topics on relationships in a spiritual and practical way so you can apply it to your everyday life. You can subscribe to The Doctor of Love Show Podcast on Stitcher, iTunes, iHeartRadio and Google Play