Single, Saved, and Sexy?

Single, Saved, and Sexy?

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Merriam-Webster Definition of Sexy: sexually appealing, attractive, or exciting. Sexually suggestive or stimulating

Do you consider yourself single, saved and sexy? Before you leave this blog, let me explain myself. Consider these things: sex sells, twerking is more common than ever and men are naturally attracted to the opposite sex. So what’s the problem with being single, saved and sexy? Let’s look at how Merriam-Webster defines sexy. Words like sexually appealing, suggestive and stimulating alone makes a man think about…sex. If a woman goes out on a date and she dressed sexy during the date any heterosexual man will think about…sex. What most women don’t realize when they dress sexy you give a man a hint that he might get some if he act right then he WILL pursue you sexually. Once he made sexual advances towards you, then you start to think he’s not saved or all men want one thing. Really?

Dear friends, I warn you as “temporary residents and foreigners” to keep away from worldly desires that wage war against your very souls. -1Peter 2:11

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body -1 Cor. 6:18

Now if we are to live a Godly lifestyle, is an example for others, why would we do anything to make our brothers and sisters stumble? If a man sees a woman who he considers sexy he can do one of two things: he can cast down the thought of seeing her naked or even as far as him thinking I wonder what she’s like in bed? Do all men think like that? I can’t say, but from the conversations I have with some men, once he see a lady with her breasts hanging out or really tight pants on his mind starts to race. (Read Romans 14:13-23 on causing others to stumble)

Ladies, I’m not saying you can’t look attractive but be considerate. I know you can’t live for everybody but do a check before you walk out your home and ask yourself will this outfit make a man lust after me?

Side note: There are some women who dress sexy with the intentions of making men pay attention to her. She got that one outfit that says God if you don’t bring my husband to me today, my hips in this outfit will!

To me I prefer classy over sexy any day, but that’s just my opinion. Classy says I walk in confidence and no man can approach me in any way they want. Come correct or don’t come at all. Being a single Christian and claiming to be sexy brings no glory to God at all. It only brings glory to your shape. Would you really want that?

Men I haven’t forgot about you either (although men struggle more with sexual lust than women) we have to be considerate of our sisters. I know you exercise four to five times a week and you want to show off your results. I understand if you are playing sports and you take off your shirt, but wearing tight shirts at a singles conference and you are the guest speaker? What about your social media profile pictures? Are they causing single women to lust after you?

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Shon Hyneman

Single Father, Mentor, Blogger. The author of 5 books and founder of Never Again Ministries, a place where we can walk through life together. Shon also hosts of The Doctor of Love Show Podcast where he discusses real topics on relationships in a spiritual and practical way so you can apply it to your everyday life. You can subscribe to The Doctor of Love Show Podcast on Stitcher, iTunes, iHeartRadio and Google Play