Should a wife turn her husband down for sex

Should a Wife Turn Her Husband Down For Sex?

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The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control -1 Cor. 7:3-5

If you read the scripture above then you got your answer. However, there is practicality that goes with it. I don’t want my women readers to think that men are barbaric and she should “give it up” upon his request. That kind of behavior is not Christ-like at all and whoever teaches that, shame on him. A husband should be considerate of his wife feelings and what state of mind she’s in. The wife whose aware of her husband needs take time to initiate sex with her husband and is fully involved during intercourse.

As we know women are like spaghetti and men like waffles so if she has a lot on her plate (mentally) then she might not be ready to have sex with her husband in an instant. Like spaghetti everything is intertwined from the noodles to the meat and sauce. So if your wife is burdened down with children, bills, her job and the other cares of this life it will be tough for her to be sexually present in the bedroom. Now this varies from woman to woman depending on what she can handle mentally. Some women can carry a full plate with dessert and other women can only handle one thing at a time. As a husband it’s imperative to know what your wife can handle

Now in defense of the husband: since he can’t be with anyone else sexually for the rest of his life but you, you should be available as much as possible. Telling your husband “no, not tonight” over an extended amount of time can be a quick turn off for him and maybe have him looking elsewhere. Regardless if she continue to tell her husband no he’s still to remain faithful, no matter the circumstances. I know this isn’t popular teaching but you made a covenant before God to remain faithful.

Think about it this way wives, what if your husband shut you down when you just want to talk? What about when you just want to be held without sex being involved and he says “not now I’m busy.” How will you feel? Think about it like this wives: if you muster enough strength and really get into it sexually, it shouldn’t take him that long!


Here are some legit reason why a husband should be considerate of his wife not wanting sex:

-Physical Disability

– Menstrual Cycle

-If she’s dealing with past sexual abuse and trying to recover


Why a wife should be available to her husband:

-God made him sexual (read Gen. 2:24)

-He can’t have sex with anyone but his wife

-According to Psychology Today men think about sex 34.2 times a week. See why he needs sex from his wife on a regular basis?


Shon Hyneman

Single Father, Mentor, Blogger. The author of 5 books and founder of Never Again Ministries, a place where we can walk through life together. Shon also hosts of The Doctor of Love Show Podcast where he discusses real topics on relationships in a spiritual and practical way so you can apply it to your everyday life. You can subscribe to The Doctor of Love Show Podcast on Stitcher, iTunes, iHeartRadio and Google Play