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Do you admire other couples? Do you secretly wish you were with someone else? Do you want to be a free agent? Do you think being married or dating someone else will make your life better? What is a free agent? A free agent (in football terms) is defined as:
A player who is not under contract and is free to negotiate and sign a Player Contract with any NFL Club, without Draft Choice Compensation or any Right of First Refusal.
When will we ever be content with our spouse or significant other? For some reason we always think “the grass is greener on the other side” but you don’t know what the people on the other side is doing to keep their grass green. In my book, Love and Football, I discuss how a player can be drafted (a single person going into marriage) in the wrong system because the team don’t know how to maximize a player’s skills, or the player simply doesn’t have the chemistry with his teammates. When this takes place, the once college superstar is now a bust in the pros.
In the words of Luther Vandross love the one your with. When we spend more time thinking about who we wish we had or remarrying, it takes the focus away from our current relationship and how we can improve it. If you take the chance to be a “free agent” there’s no guarantee the next person you decide to marry or date will make your life better. There have been players who went to other teams (chasing the money and the fame, or to be a big fish in a small sea) only to find out their career went on a downslide.
Some players know not to chase the money or fame, so they stay with the team that made them into the star player they currently are. They recognize the grass isn’t greener on the other side. They stay committed to the system and the other players. Are you committed to one person until death do you part? Or have you fallen into the false belief that you need to be happy at all times and will do anything to keep that happiness? When we fall into that false belief, we will sacrifice our spouse or significant other in order to pursue happiness at all times.
Should we accept only good things from the hand of God and never anything bad?
-Job 2:10 NLT
Some players will go to other teams in free agency and blossom! In some cases, they were buried on the depth chart or never got the chance to hit the field. Another team might know how to properly utilize the player’s skill set. The coach took the necessary time to know the player and recognize his strengths and weaknesses. Are you putting your significant other or spouse in the best position to blossom or are they ready to become a free agent?